Confident people have a certain something extra to them that people can’t help but notice. Apart from breezing through life amidst all challenges and disappointments, confident people have the drive to succeed, and they always seem to achieve the goals that they have set for themselves.

Everyone wants to be confident, but it takes more than being secure in one’s personal appearance or career to come across as naturally self-assured. To learn how they do it, here are the things that confident people never do.

Pretend to be someone that they’re not

Confident people are secure in who they are and don’t pretend to be someone they’re not. They know that they don’t have to pretend to be accepted and are humble enough to admit that they have flaws just like everybody else.

Seek validation or approval from others

Confident people never have to seek approval from others. Nowadays, many tend to post pictures of their “perfect” lifestyle, job, relationship, or appearance to gain validation from others, and brag about what they have. However, truly confident people don’t need to post every detail of their lives on social media, as they know their worth.

Put others down to feel good

People who are truly secure don’t need to put other people down to feel good. They also never talk about other people in the hopes of ruining their reputation.

Wait for permission to act

Confident people don’t need someone to tell them to do something—they take the initiative. They rarely ask if they can or should do something. Instead, they take action and get the job done.

Refuse help

Confident people know when to seek help. Those who turn it away are often insecure and do not value the input from others. Those who are truly self-assured welcome suggestions and are open to learning different ways to solve a problem.

Judge

Confident people don’t judge other people because they know that everyone can bring something different and of value to the table. They don’t waste time trying to figure a person out—instead, they welcome people as they are.

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