If you want to become an effective communicator, there should be things that you're willing to do in order to achieve it. One of the most important factors of becoming a great speaker is your choice of words. Unfortunately, sometimes unconsciously, we have speaking habits that should be omitted as soon as we can do so. Here are 5 of them:
1. Being negative. Aside from the fact that this bad habit is bad for the health as well, negativity can spread like wildfire. Being positive, on the other hand, will make you more effective to people because 'your vibe attracts your tribe'.
2. Engaging yourself in gossips. Actress Blake Lively believes that it's people's insecurities that drive them to talk about other people instead - pointing out another person's flaws so that they could feel good about themselves. What you say about other people usually says more about you, remember that.
3. Judging other people. One of the hardest things to overcome is this trait. Judging others is more of a reflex action for some people, but to those who know better, judging doesn't do any good. If people feel that they are being judged, it would cost them their self-confidence amongst other things, and would have the possibility of shutting down completely.
4. Complaining all the time. This habit delays you in so many levels without your knowing. Most of the time, complaining results and equals to procrastinating. If there's something wrong, do something to fix it. Complaining in no way helps and it easily becomes a habit as well.
5. Trying to make excuses. The great Benjamin Franklin once said; "He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else." To be an effective communicator means to be credible. If you keep on making excuses for anything, you will never be able to achieve anything.
