Here are 3 ways to know if you're being sidelined at work - and 3 tips to make sure you get your position back in the office, and be that personality people can't help but value and respect.
When you're a star at work, and your boss can't live without your ideas, and your colleagues can't help but admire you; and then suddenly things start going downhill, it might be very difficult to cope.
So are you in this situation? According to a writer at Muse these are tell tale signs that you are in hot waters:
1.Your Boss Has Turned Into A Dictator
Earlier, you could discuss what you thought about parts of a project and your boss would care and appreciate the input. But now, it seems like you keep telling him/her that you know what you're doing and asking for his/her trust, and he/she keeps asking you to just do what they say.
2. You're All Alone
Your colleagues don't seem to be having problems at all. They're in sync with the boss and haven't noticed any changes, and so now you're not just in the doghouse, you feel like you're all alone in there, too.
3.You're Not Being Appreciated by Anyone Anymore
You used to be respected by everyone. And now it seems like no one is going beyond basic politeness anymore, or valuing your suggestions and opinions.
Now, if all of the above seem to jive like hand in glove in your situation in the office, here is what you should do:
1. Recognize That It Is You
This is not going to be easy. No one wants to feel like the person whose head success has gone to, but there's the bitter truth. You've been acting like you're the best thing to ever happen to your company - and it is possible you hadn't even realized it.
Here's the good news: recognizing that there is a problem is, even in AA, the first step to recovery, and you're already there.
2. Start Learning Again
When you decided you were extremely talented and too good for your job, you also decided to stop your learning curve because you thought you knew everything.
No one ever knows everything.
Don't be afraid to admit that you don't know something, or that you could use someone else's guidance or experience. Be humble and down to earth. People cannot help but like that.
3. Change your Approach to the Ppposite of What You Were Doing.
Let's take the example of the dictator problem. Do this as an experiment: when your boss gives you a project, accept it without argument. Do what you're told, and don't get caught up in winning a conversation. That never helps a career. Very soon, you should see the praise going up again.
Also, ask people for feedback instead of pushing back. Try to learn from others - even if you don't think they're as good as you. You have nothing to lose.
